2022.01.21 06:13 DeadlySins666 First time posting. Pre-HRT and pretty much pre-everything, but looking for some validation from strangers.
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2022.01.21 06:13 kaaatten My aunt/foster mum has been lying to me about my bio parents this whole damn time...
TRIGGER WARNING: many of them.
I'm sitting on a train right now. Less emotional about this whole thing so I will try my best to write it out. It's actually not just her - it's the whole family.
My bio mother died a month after I was born. Since no one could take care of me nor did my bio dad wanted me, my aunt decided to adopt me instead out of generosity and the fact that she couldn't conceive herself.
Throughout my whole childhood, my biological parents were horrible. Dad was a drunkard, mum was a dumb hoe, he abused her, she just continued to be a victim, he didn't earn any money, she was just working in some low paid factory. All in all, it's better for me to not be with them at all, otherwise my future wouldn't have looked so bright - according to these people.
My bio mum lying for days in a hospital and my bio dad never showed up to visit her. He eventually came on the day that she died with a whole new family, to laugh at my bio mother dying. He and his family eventually got killed in a car crash 13 years later (the adoption process finalized that 13th year.)
Also throughout my whole childhood, I was told that I was the cause for her sister's death (her sister being my bio mum meant nothing to her), for the family's debt, for my foster mum's husband incontrollable sexual urges towards me (I was just 12), for my granddad's death, for being a burden, etc.
I did not have a good childhood but I didn't know any better. I had nothing to compare with.
Everything got better once I moved to a different continent with my husband and our kids. My foster mum in the beginning had the audacity requesting all of my salary because my children's father's parents/my in-laws are rich so they can pay for everything while I give my money to her. She then asked for naked photos of my child which I gracefully told her to fuck off in different languages and then she had the audacity to tell me she adopted me, she should be able to get whatever she wants otherwise I would have been dumped in a dumpster or left alone in the streets.
That was the final straw. I called it quit - no longer contacting her.
Back to now - in 2020 I asked for an examination for ADHD. My child has it so I suspect either my husband or I must have it. Most likely me because the symptoms match up. So i went to the psych ward and it's going great until they asked about my childhood and my parents. I realized a lot of chunks did not add up and most of them was missing so I went to my cousin and her parents. (They're great. I wish I was better to them.)
According to my aunt (my bio mum's other sister) and her husband, my bio parents were in love with each other and both had stable jobs. They might not pay much but pretty decent. They were in love so they got married then had me, but both struggling financially so they asked my grandparents to take me in while they work. Every weekend they would come to visit and bringing essentials with them.
In the beginning my bio dad would always come with but since my grandparents - especially my grandma - didn't like him so much, he came less and less. She also told me that my dad was a drunkard but anyone who drinks every other day is considered an alcoholic to them (the whole family) so I took that with a grain of salt.
My bio mum working in the factory without any proper precautions got her sick which meant hospital bed for days. My aunt said it wasn't true that he didn't show up - he would show up whenever he could and on his days off but because of my family not liking him, they eventually pushed him away.
The day my mum died, he didn't come at all. He didn't come with any new family like they told me. My aunt said he was sad so he didn't come. He apparently felt ashamed. Thereafter, he never showed up again. Never to be seen - not even to the court date for custody.
My granddad then pushed me onto my aunt/current foster mother because she was earning a lot of income and so did her husband. My grandma favoured her and her husband more than my bio parents because of the money factor. She was earning a stable 6 figures and so was he, until he got laid off and became the drunkard (super drunkard.) /Karma?
My aunt said that it's because my grandparents not liking my bio dad so much must have caused the most drift in everything. It's not that my bio dad didn't want me, according to her, but it's because he had no support from any of my family.
To sum up, I'm now contacting anyone with the same last name as him in his area to search for the truth. If he's somehow alive, I'd like to know why and what happened. My foster mum lied to me about so many other things. I feel like I've been living a lie and been telling others lies as well.
I don't know who I am anymore and they keep telling me to forget the past- but I have the right to know and it's been eating me alive.
Because I could have had a normal childhood, without the physical & mental abuses. Despite not being rich, I could have had a normal childhood and learn how to be a child so I could be a better mother to my kids. I'm struggling trying to parents myself & growing myself while raising them at the same time.
It's tiring. What to do?
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2022.01.21 06:13 Loveweedandmusic What’s more annoying , someone who yawns on a bus / train without covering or a female bumping you with her bag and not saying anything or strangers stepping on your shoes?
2022.01.21 06:13 bibbles82 I can’t lay on my left side when sleeping because of chest pain or pressure. Anyone else have this?
2022.01.21 06:13 Wide-Butterscotch-43 Could Black eyed peas could help eliminate need for fertilizer?
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2022.01.21 06:13 TheLegitCheese Could a phone like the Oppo A54 5G , with 4 gigs of ram and a Qualcomm SDM480 run demanding games well?
2022.01.21 06:13 HarshivPlayz_2008 I'm sorry... I had too...
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2022.01.21 06:13 bobbyUP-MKII Maelys Garouis
2022.01.21 06:13 quidbickets How do I get the Spaces Bar back?
It was there around the time of Fleets, but the current spaces bar for people I follow went along with it
The weird thing is I’ll still see people take screenshots of it with spaces from current day. Don’t know what I’m missing
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2022.01.21 06:13 bdinu89 Twitter Rolls Out Verified NFT Profile Pictures
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2022.01.21 06:13 Leoz_13 A perfectly preserved dinosaur embryo was discovered in China. Researchers estimate that it is at leat 66 million years old. It is the first time that a fossil of a baby dinosaur has been seen.
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2022.01.21 06:13 Hardh_guy Can someone show me how to implement audioservice with audioplayers package? I am playing audio from bytes received from a web response.
2022.01.21 06:13 Gibbo3771 Can we have a weekly loadout pinned megathread?
Or at least a flair or something? A lot of the content on this sub (if you sort by new) is either about game issues, cheaters or general new player questions. Then among all that is scattered lol/wtf videos.
I notice on here there is a severe lack of kit discussion and I think it would lead to some good content. It will also give a place for new players to browse
I got the idea from this post that hit the subs front page.
What do you think?
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2022.01.21 06:13 Russian_doll49 How can I deal with this woman
I'm not having a good day. Had a low mood all last night, due to my mental health and felt upset. I was recently made redundant and now in a new job. I don't think I've come to terms with what's gone on yet, it was a bit of a shock.
First two months in my new job were great, although there was a lot of turn over I noticed. People seemed ok.
Had a woman cause some trouble last week. She tried putting her work on my desk, demanded I do her stuff first before mine. I told her I would but I'm half way through my own. Then she told the manager I 'was putting my stuff onto her desk'. I was accused of doing so although I told them that I didn't do it I asked them if they had proof I did so, the manager said everyone was saying I did it. Turns out she not only got her two sons involved but also her friends to tell manager lies about me. So I went to the shift manager and he said that wasn't right and would keep an eye out for me. Ever since she has been out of charactor nice until this morning.
Then this morning whilst I was cleaning, the same woman tried to get me into trouble at work because she told me 'the manager just asked us to do xyz' and I said 'ok but they didn't talk to me about it'. She said dramatically, 'oh you can't talk to me like that' I said 'like what?'. Then she ran off crying to a manager about me. I know my boss is friends with her and I got yelled at last time she did this. She has a habit of spreading stuff about me, but because I have only worked in the job for three months I feel I am being forced out.
I went for a walk, we have a big warehouse so easy to get lost and calm myself down. She finds me tell me 'oh the manager is looking for you' I said why. She says about my attitude. I asked her 'what her problem was and to please leave me alone'. So I walked out to calm down outside.
I feel like it's me, all I want to do is just quit my job. What would you guys do?
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2022.01.21 06:13 123blueface What about trading grant to GSW
2022.01.21 06:13 Divya-6969 Sanjeeda Shaikh hottest photos in white swimsuit - see now.
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2022.01.21 06:13 Elle-123 Taking Vyvanse to sleep?
2022.01.21 06:13 AluminumAngel Frosthaven Monster Mover
| I've updated the Gloomhaven Monster Mover to support the Frosthaven rules!|
The Monster Mover is a web app that calculates monster movements and attacks. It's ad free, popup free, with no installation required. Check it out here:
On the lower-right you will now find a dropdown to select which game's rules to use.
The differences relevant to the Monster Mover are:
In most real-world cases, simply allowing line-of-sight to touch walls at its end points is enough to conform to Frosthaven rules. Such as with this classic example from an actual scenario. Here Frosthaven allows line-of-sight, while Gloomhaven (unintuitively) does not.
That said, it's not hard to find setups that have no vertex-to-vertex visibility, yet Frosthaven rules allow line-of-sight. For example:
It can be fun to play around and explore the rules differences in various situations.
All previously shared scenario URLs are still supported and will use the expected game's rules. Please let me know if you find any issues.
Here's my original post, which includes basic details about the app.
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2022.01.21 06:13 Dracornis1988 How does elemental damage work exactly in MH rise?
Guide in question: https://gamewith.net/monsterhunter-rise/article/show/24527
The first guide with the water rampage blades, i already figured out that they listed one wrong rampage skill.. so I want to see if the rest works like it’s written there
The guide shows that I have more elemental skills on my armor than my weapon has.. Level 1 ice Level 1 Dragon And Level 5 ANY element…
So is this Dmg added to my weapon even if the weapon doesn’t have it…. Or should I go all water?
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2022.01.21 06:13 krn-blk Experiments with Refraction BSDF, Glossy BSDF
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2022.01.21 06:13 ToxicAbuse Just wondering did anyone here try and other games that are similar to hs and stayed there or went back
2022.01.21 06:13 Astolus Why offer hotspot if we can’t use it? Hotspot throttled.
I’ve been using my hotspot to play games and such, However, I hear that it’s against their terms to use your hotspot for pretty much anything you’d want to use it for. My hotspot data has slowed dramatically, and this is the only reason I can think of as to why.
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2022.01.21 06:13 sendmedankmemeslol Pokemon Best Wishes the original Japanese title of Black White anime referenced in new episode easter egg!
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2022.01.21 06:13 Chrknu UPS for an office (School assignment)
Hello good people,
I'm new here and I don't know if this is an accepted use of this subreddit. Please let me know if it's not and I will of course delete this topic (maybe direct me to the subreddit it's better suited?). I'm also not a native English speaker, so just ask if anything in my post is unclear!
In my studies to become an electrical teacher I have gotten an assignment to select a UPS for an office. The assignment is pretty open ended and doesn't have a lot of information, so I can choose the framework/boundaries myself, but I want to make a good paper, so I'm trying to do a little research.
The assignment is basically this:
A customer wants an UPS that can handle 10kW for an Office that spans two floors. Select an UPS that suits the needs of the customer and make a drawing of how it can be installed.
Since the text mentions it's an office, I'm assuming what needs to be powered for a while, in case of a power outage, is computers, phones, lights and probably some server functions.
So in this imaginary situation I need to plan a solution for a UPS-system that will automatically keep the power on if the power fails, and make sure that the office can finish up their job within a certain time limit.
For my assignment I have decided this:
* The battery of the UPS needs to be connected at all times, so that computers won't shut off right away if there's a power outage. (To my understanding, any Online UPS will handle this.)
* The office needs to be powered for 45 minutes with all the necessary functions (phones, PCs, lights and servers) after a power failure. All these functions should not be affected by this power outage in this time. The idea is that this is enough time to finish up what you are doing and be able to save everything, so that getting back to work when the power gets back on, is as seamless as possible.
* There is no life & death involved, but the economic cost for the company is high in unexpected power problems.
* Everything in this office is relatively modern (basically new standard office computers, LED lights, new servers)
What I wonder about:
* Where is the normal placement of a UPS the size mentioned in the assignment?
* UPS are labeled with kVA and not kW, so I will have to write a little about this in my paper. This is connected to the cos φ, but what is a normal cos φ for a modern office? If you know about common problems and solutions around this, please feel free to advice me!
* How often does UPS's need service and battery replacements?
* Since it's mentioned the assignment mentions two floors, there might be something i have to be careful with about that. Length of cables? Advice me if anything comes to mind.
* General problems and solutions with UPS-systems for offices - anything that I can write about.
I can provide drawings from the assignments, if that is necessary.
Links to reliable sources would also be appreciated!
Thanks for any leads you can give me. And thank you for your help! 🙂
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2022.01.21 06:13 Intelligent-Towel807 Why my illsya so weak
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